okay, after watching every single american-or british, mind you- tv series there is actually worth watching, -i am talking about 'fringe' mixed with 'six feet under' and a twist of 'big bang theory' among others less endowed-, i figured, sex and the city. ( I can't believe I am writing this down, damn you hbo!)
Yup! the series. 1998 and the glorious cult sparkle. There is nothing the love for ridiculously expensive shoes, pointless satisfying for about half an hour sex , and luxurious post modern female drama can't cure.
I know, it feels like a cheap shot but that is what insomnia does to you, and honestly, for once, I would like to indulge my ‘girly girl’ version without guilt just for the sake of curiosity, to see what will come of it.
Basically, the whole series tiptoes around the traditional goal of every woman's life; to find a man. First obvious question, why do we need a man? Because we do not want to be alone. However is it really deep rooted in our genes the impulse to take care of someone ( the impulse to try and change the people around us, to try and nurture them into what we want them to be, i.e. men., bloody maternal instincts if you ask me) or is it just more of an unconscious obligation impregnated in the minds of women by social standards? I mean, is it 'wrong' and out of the ordinary to be perfectly fine being alone? At first, I’d say yes from the point of view that supports that we are first and foremost social beings and have certain logical tendencies to 'reach out' to our equals and seek companionship in whatever form. But again, companionship may come in two or more people. Why that one person, that 'special friend' of a man or a woman is superior to everyone else in one's life. Can you share your heart with only one person? I don't think that spiritual monogamy is an approved term. So, the big question, is any kind of monogamy an approved term for the human kind? I think that all women would very much like to know why monogamy is so difficult for some men when to women it comes more naturally. What is it? Is it something about our hormones that makes women fall in love harder and out of it more brutally whereas men's range of feelings is half the one of females? So, it comes down to biology. We are who we are and we are different and we are twisted, with the super special addition that we have minds to realize it. Men are built in other ways than women. Where do they fit with one another though, if a man, being a man, and a woman, being a woman, function, think, and feel differently?
Halfway through the second season of the series awoke this sudden terror in me that i might end up alone. But hey, I am 18 years old, isn't it too melodramatic, and well stupid, to have such a crisis now?
i have enjoyed being single. i practically only know how not to be single with two or three people, not generally. Meaning, I don't know dating rules and all the philosophies concerning it that you hear other women proudly consult you with. All i know so far is tha
"All men desire only satisfaction."
"Satisfaction of what?"
"Satisfaction of their desires."
"Their desires for what?"
"Their desires for satisfaction."
"Satisfaction of what?"
"For satisfaction" ad infinitum.
Furthermore, a thought constantly bugging my mind throughout the series was, what is the role of a woman today? what does being a woman mean? It means, what being a woman in the 20’s was plus what being a man in the 20’s was. Really all we, women, managed to do is load our backs with more responsibilities and expectations and shit. Don’t get me wrong, I am beyond grateful about my rights and my freedom as firstly a woman, and secondly as just another human being, but not everyone seems as grateful. Women are still displayed in magazine covers as if their clothes wear them instead of being worn, and we all grow up with our goals balancing between becoming beautiful, charming, successful, maternal, sexy, independent, good wives, good cooks, good hostesses, good in bed. One cannot hope to be all that. Not because one cannot, but because if one would actually attain all that, she would have a severe case of multiple personality disorder and would then also have to become a good psych patient.
I think, and I am not sure, I have lost sense of where I was getting at.